For a long time I personally have struggled with WHY the concept of Christian forgiveness bothered me. While forgiveness in practice works well and is admirable, it seems to be a lost art form. The old “I’m sorry if I…,” makes my blood boil. IF. That single word takes out the entirety of sincerity from the apology itself and I’ve noticed that pesky IF floating around a lot within apologies lately.
An article written by Star Foster a Pagan blogger on Patheos (a multi-religious and anti-religious blogger portal) brought up some of my issues with the Chrisitan concept of forgiveness and why it bothers me SO DAMN MUCH. Emphasis is mine.
"I’ve stated before that I don’t believe in the Christian notion of forgiveness. That is not to say that I don’t believe in forgiveness at all, but that I find this Western concept of it as articulated by Christianity, which is pervasive even in Pagan culture, to be immoral and wrong. Somewhere forgiveness became a weapon for the perpetrator of wrongs to use against their victim. I don’t know where this first appeared, but it is evident that Christianity latched onto this hard and fast, and have preached it for at least a millennium…”
She goes on to say…
"The Christian notion of forgiveness transforms you from someone who has been significantly wronged, to an emotional miser who refuses to give their wrongdoer all the attention, love, kindness and mercy they feel they deserve. To me this notion is sinister, abusive, and malevolent."